Why Forgiveness is a gift to ourselves

Are you nurturing a grudge?

It may be keeping you stuck, unhappy and unhealthy.

It is normal to become upset when we have suffered at the hands of others.

Perhaps they have spoken or behaved in ways that we feel invalidated.

Perhaps they have taken or damaged something which we value- from our car to our reputation...

Perhaps they have left us and we are feeling abandoned and rejected.

While it is 'normal" to become upset over an "injustice" we have suffered at the hands of someone else,  it is not useful to hold that emotion long-term.

Holding a grudge and resentment can consume us and prevent us from moving forward with our lives. We have no time to focus on our own wellbeing and happiness if we spend the time ruminating over injustice and perhaps wishing revenge on others.

According to the Mayo Clinic, if you're unforgiving, you might:

  • Bring anger and bitterness into every relationship and new experience

  • Become so wrapped up in the wrong that you can't enjoy the present

  • Become depressed or anxious

  • Feel that your life lacks meaning or purpose, or conflicted  with your spiritual beliefs or values.

  • Lose valuable and enriching connectedness with others

While letting go of grudges and bitterness can make way for improved health and peace of mind. Forgiveness can lead to:

  • Healthier relationships
  • Improved mental health
  • Less anxiety, stress and hostility
  • Lower blood pressure
  • Fewer symptoms of depression
  • A stronger immune system
  • Improved heart health
  • Improved self-esteem

See also the Business Insider article: Forgiveness helps relieve stress, clear the mind

Which do you choose a shot at increased happiness, well-being, and longevity or to nurture that grudge?



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